NegotiationVeteran12 min

Asking for the raise

No competing offer, no invitation, and a manager who will happily agree to revisit this later. Getting a yes is not the hard part — getting a date is.

The brief

You are

An engineer three years into the role, asking your director for a raise.

The situation

You booked fifteen minutes with Ruth Alderman, your director, to ask for a raise. You are on 92,000. You believe the role is now worth around 105. Nobody asked you to have this conversation and you have no other offer. You led the migration that took the on-call pager from eleven pages a week to two, and you have been the person the team asks about the billing service since the person who built it left.

What you want out of it

Leave with a specific number attached to a specific date — or a written set of conditions that gets you there.

What you know going in

Who is on the other end

Ruth

Director of Engineering, Halden Logistics

She opens busy but civil, and she is holding 4 things back 0 near the surface, 2 that take real questioning, and 2 you will only get to if the conversation genuinely goes well. What they are, and what makes her say them, is the part you have to find. She is not scripted to volunteer any of it.

What the debrief marks

The objectives for this scenario, and the four axes every negotiation call is graded on.

Make the case on contribution, not needName a number out loudFind out how a number actually changesLeave with a date, not a sentimentMake it easy for her to say yes

Position and anchor

Did they establish a defensible position with reasoning, and either anchor first or handle the other side's anchor without accepting its frame?

Trading, not conceding

Was every concession exchanged for something? A unilateral give teaches the other side that waiting is profitable.

Composure under silence

Did they hold a pause, resist negotiating against themselves, and avoid filling quiet with a worse offer? This is where most of the money is lost.

Result

What was actually agreed, measured against the position they walked in with?

How the call can end

Improved on the opening

win

They moved the other side and gave up less than they got.

Held their position

partial

No ground gained, none lost.

Conceded, traded badly

partial

Agreement reached at a cost that did not buy anything back.

Negotiated against themselves

loss

Improved the other side's offer without being asked. Almost always happens in a silence.

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Arguing from contribution rather than need, and converting a warm yes into a dated commitment. 12 minutes, live voice, and a scored debrief you can replay. The first call is free.