IELTS Speaking Part 3: Family and relationships
The theme where candidates most reliably slip back into Part 2 and start telling stories about their own family.
Whether you can generalise about something intensely personal. It is genuinely hard: the questions are about society, but the material closest to hand is your own household.
Questions you can expect
Longer answers than Part 1 — thirty to forty-five seconds each. The examiner may disagree with you, which is the format working as intended.
- How have family structures changed in your country?
- Are extended families becoming less common?
- Should grandparents be involved in raising children?
- Do people spend enough time with their families?
- Is it better to live near your relatives?
- Why do some people choose not to have children?
- How do families keep in touch when they live far apart?
- Are family relationships more important than friendships?
How to build an answer here
- Start with the general pattern in your country, then narrow. The reverse order is the trap.
- Give a cause for any change you describe — work, housing costs, migration, women's employment. A change with no cause is half an answer.
- Compare generations rather than individuals. 'My parents' generation' is a useful unit that keeps you general.
- It is fine to say a trend is neither good nor bad. Refusing a false choice is a strong move here.
Language this theme needs
Part 3 is scored on whether you can generalise and speculate without overstating. These are the phrases that do that work in this particular area.
traditionally
sets up the then-and-now contrast
there's less of a stigma around
precise for changing social attitudes
my parents' generation
keeps a personal reference general
it's becoming the norm
for a shift that has already happened
for better or worse
declines to moralise while still answering
close-knit
the standard collocation for tight families
The trap in this theme
Answering 'are extended families less common?' with the story of your own grandmother.
One sentence of family detail as evidence is good; thirty seconds of it is a Part 2 answer given in Part 3, and the examiner will mark it as failing to develop the topic.
Two of these, answered at band 8
Watch the moves, not the opinions — take a position, hedge it as far as you actually believe it, support it, and give the strongest objection its due. Your views can be the opposite of these and score the same. A memorised Part 3 answer is more obvious than a memorised Part 1 one, because the examiner follows up on what you just said and a script cannot survive the follow-up.
How have family structures changed in recent decades?
The biggest change where I'm from is that the extended household has largely gone. My grandparents lived with my parents for years and that was completely ordinary; now it's rare enough that people comment. What replaced it is smaller, more mobile households, which suits careers and doesn't suit childcare or old age at all. So a lot of what the extended family used to absorb invisibly has become either a paid service or a crisis, and I don't think we've fully worked out the second one.
Why it worksTraces a single structural change through to two consequences, and the phrase 'absorbed invisibly' is precise about what was actually lost.
Should elderly parents live with their children?
I'd say it should be genuinely optional, which it currently isn't in either direction. Where I'm from there's real pressure to say yes, and people who can't manage it carry a lot of guilt about it. In other places the assumption runs the other way and the alternative is expensive and often poor. Neither of those is really a choice. What would actually help is making both options viable, so the decision is about the particular family rather than about what's available.
Why it worksRefuses both offered positions and reframes the question as being about constraints rather than values, which is the most sophisticated available answer.
Other Part 3 themes
Culture & tradition
The theme with the most room to say something the examiner has not heard before, and the least prepared by most candidates.
Media & news
Contemporary and opinion-heavy, and the theme where an unsupported claim is most likely to be challenged.
Health & lifestyle
Responsibility and behaviour change, not medicine — no specialist knowledge is needed or wanted.
Money & consumerism
Abstract and comfortable to overgeneralise about, which is exactly where this theme catches people.
Cities & housing
Concrete, policy-shaped, and the theme most improved by naming an actual place.
Travel & tourism
Sits right next to the Part 2 travel cards, so the drift back into personal narrative is unusually strong here.
Practise being disagreed with
Oliver pushes back in Part 3 the way a real examiner does — not to catch you out, but because holding a position under mild pressure is exactly what is being scored. That is not something you can rehearse against a list of questions. The first test is free.
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